Did not want coworkers to know about death of parent
I recently lost my Mom unexpectedly.
I asked my manager, who is also HR, not to tell anyone. She told me that she would only tell the owners but no one else. I get back to work after taking some time off, and it turns out that she emailed the entire company completely going against my wishes and even told the mailman. This was not her information to share and I now feel not only violated, and that I can no longer trust her.
She has made this lose so much harder on me than it needed to be. To make it worse, she recently lost a loved one (prior to my Mom passing) and asked me not to tell anyone and I did not.
I am also angry at her for not reciprocating and honoring my wishes. I am not sure how to handle this situation.
I don't have the energy to look for a new job with all that I am dealing with but am always angry at my current one.
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I recently lost my Mom unexpectedly.
I asked my manager, who is also HR, not to tell anyone. She told me that she would only tell the owners but no one else. I get back to work after taking some time off, and it turns out that she emailed the entire company completely going against my wishes and even told the mailman. This was not her information to share and I now feel not only violated, and that I can no longer trust her.
She has made this lose so much harder on me than it needed to be. To make it worse, she recently lost a loved one (prior to my Mom passing) and asked me not to tell anyone and I did not.
I am also angry at her for not reciprocating and honoring my wishes. I am not sure how to handle this situation.
I don't have the energy to look for a new job with all that I am dealing with but am always angry at my current one.
death family
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– Makyen
2 hours ago
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Sorry to hear that... what is your question that you would like us to help you with?
– DarkCygnus
2 hours ago
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Very sorry to hear what you have gone through but on this board this question could be seen as being 'too broad' or 'unclear what you're asking'. It may end up having the question closed. Please see workplace.stackexchange.com/help/how-to-ask and do not take it personally if you're question is closed. On another note I sympathise with your dillemma but what is done is done and you just need to look after yourself first and go from there. Work is not everything.
– solarflare
1 hour ago
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So sorry for your loss. But I don't see a question here. Depending on your relationship with your boss, you could talk to her privately and express that you are disappointed she shared your loss with others. Maybe saying that will help you feel better.
– Joe Strazzere
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I recently lost my Mom unexpectedly.
I asked my manager, who is also HR, not to tell anyone. She told me that she would only tell the owners but no one else. I get back to work after taking some time off, and it turns out that she emailed the entire company completely going against my wishes and even told the mailman. This was not her information to share and I now feel not only violated, and that I can no longer trust her.
She has made this lose so much harder on me than it needed to be. To make it worse, she recently lost a loved one (prior to my Mom passing) and asked me not to tell anyone and I did not.
I am also angry at her for not reciprocating and honoring my wishes. I am not sure how to handle this situation.
I don't have the energy to look for a new job with all that I am dealing with but am always angry at my current one.
death family
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I recently lost my Mom unexpectedly.
I asked my manager, who is also HR, not to tell anyone. She told me that she would only tell the owners but no one else. I get back to work after taking some time off, and it turns out that she emailed the entire company completely going against my wishes and even told the mailman. This was not her information to share and I now feel not only violated, and that I can no longer trust her.
She has made this lose so much harder on me than it needed to be. To make it worse, she recently lost a loved one (prior to my Mom passing) and asked me not to tell anyone and I did not.
I am also angry at her for not reciprocating and honoring my wishes. I am not sure how to handle this situation.
I don't have the energy to look for a new job with all that I am dealing with but am always angry at my current one.
death family
death family
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Don't project your sorrow on others, you need to move forwards.
– Kilisi
2 hours ago
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Please don't make more work for others by vandalizing your posts. By posting on the Stack Exchange (SE) network, you've granted a non-revocable right, under the CC BY-SA 3.0 license, for SE to distribute the content (i.e. regardless of your future choices). By SE policy, the non-vandalized version is distributed. Thus, any vandalism will be reverted. Please see: How does deleting work? …. If permitted to delete, there's a "delete" button below the tags, on the left. You may need to use a browser, not the mobile app.
– Makyen
2 hours ago
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Sorry to hear that... what is your question that you would like us to help you with?
– DarkCygnus
2 hours ago
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Very sorry to hear what you have gone through but on this board this question could be seen as being 'too broad' or 'unclear what you're asking'. It may end up having the question closed. Please see workplace.stackexchange.com/help/how-to-ask and do not take it personally if you're question is closed. On another note I sympathise with your dillemma but what is done is done and you just need to look after yourself first and go from there. Work is not everything.
– solarflare
1 hour ago
1
So sorry for your loss. But I don't see a question here. Depending on your relationship with your boss, you could talk to her privately and express that you are disappointed she shared your loss with others. Maybe saying that will help you feel better.
– Joe Strazzere
1 hour ago
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Don't project your sorrow on others, you need to move forwards.
– Kilisi
2 hours ago
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Please don't make more work for others by vandalizing your posts. By posting on the Stack Exchange (SE) network, you've granted a non-revocable right, under the CC BY-SA 3.0 license, for SE to distribute the content (i.e. regardless of your future choices). By SE policy, the non-vandalized version is distributed. Thus, any vandalism will be reverted. Please see: How does deleting work? …. If permitted to delete, there's a "delete" button below the tags, on the left. You may need to use a browser, not the mobile app.
– Makyen
2 hours ago
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Sorry to hear that... what is your question that you would like us to help you with?
– DarkCygnus
2 hours ago
1
Very sorry to hear what you have gone through but on this board this question could be seen as being 'too broad' or 'unclear what you're asking'. It may end up having the question closed. Please see workplace.stackexchange.com/help/how-to-ask and do not take it personally if you're question is closed. On another note I sympathise with your dillemma but what is done is done and you just need to look after yourself first and go from there. Work is not everything.
– solarflare
1 hour ago
1
So sorry for your loss. But I don't see a question here. Depending on your relationship with your boss, you could talk to her privately and express that you are disappointed she shared your loss with others. Maybe saying that will help you feel better.
– Joe Strazzere
1 hour ago
1
1
Don't project your sorrow on others, you need to move forwards.
– Kilisi
2 hours ago
Don't project your sorrow on others, you need to move forwards.
– Kilisi
2 hours ago
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2
Please don't make more work for others by vandalizing your posts. By posting on the Stack Exchange (SE) network, you've granted a non-revocable right, under the CC BY-SA 3.0 license, for SE to distribute the content (i.e. regardless of your future choices). By SE policy, the non-vandalized version is distributed. Thus, any vandalism will be reverted. Please see: How does deleting work? …. If permitted to delete, there's a "delete" button below the tags, on the left. You may need to use a browser, not the mobile app.
– Makyen
2 hours ago
Please don't make more work for others by vandalizing your posts. By posting on the Stack Exchange (SE) network, you've granted a non-revocable right, under the CC BY-SA 3.0 license, for SE to distribute the content (i.e. regardless of your future choices). By SE policy, the non-vandalized version is distributed. Thus, any vandalism will be reverted. Please see: How does deleting work? …. If permitted to delete, there's a "delete" button below the tags, on the left. You may need to use a browser, not the mobile app.
– Makyen
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Sorry to hear that... what is your question that you would like us to help you with?
– DarkCygnus
2 hours ago
Sorry to hear that... what is your question that you would like us to help you with?
– DarkCygnus
2 hours ago
1
1
Very sorry to hear what you have gone through but on this board this question could be seen as being 'too broad' or 'unclear what you're asking'. It may end up having the question closed. Please see workplace.stackexchange.com/help/how-to-ask and do not take it personally if you're question is closed. On another note I sympathise with your dillemma but what is done is done and you just need to look after yourself first and go from there. Work is not everything.
– solarflare
1 hour ago
Very sorry to hear what you have gone through but on this board this question could be seen as being 'too broad' or 'unclear what you're asking'. It may end up having the question closed. Please see workplace.stackexchange.com/help/how-to-ask and do not take it personally if you're question is closed. On another note I sympathise with your dillemma but what is done is done and you just need to look after yourself first and go from there. Work is not everything.
– solarflare
1 hour ago
1
1
So sorry for your loss. But I don't see a question here. Depending on your relationship with your boss, you could talk to her privately and express that you are disappointed she shared your loss with others. Maybe saying that will help you feel better.
– Joe Strazzere
1 hour ago
So sorry for your loss. But I don't see a question here. Depending on your relationship with your boss, you could talk to her privately and express that you are disappointed she shared your loss with others. Maybe saying that will help you feel better.
– Joe Strazzere
1 hour ago
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– Makyen
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Sorry to hear that... what is your question that you would like us to help you with?
– DarkCygnus
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Very sorry to hear what you have gone through but on this board this question could be seen as being 'too broad' or 'unclear what you're asking'. It may end up having the question closed. Please see workplace.stackexchange.com/help/how-to-ask and do not take it personally if you're question is closed. On another note I sympathise with your dillemma but what is done is done and you just need to look after yourself first and go from there. Work is not everything.
– solarflare
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So sorry for your loss. But I don't see a question here. Depending on your relationship with your boss, you could talk to her privately and express that you are disappointed she shared your loss with others. Maybe saying that will help you feel better.
– Joe Strazzere
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