My boss hits too hard
I'm new to the company, Oct 2018, and I'm just now getting back into the technology field after being a classroom teacher for the last 10 years. I left education because of the lack of money, and I've landed a really good gig now - and I really enjoy it.
As I've been progressing in my assignments and accomplishments, my boss has become more and more enthusiastic in his approvals. He has started "patting" my back, which is more like hitting me. I must get slapped upside the shoulder 4-7 times a day now...and they seem to be getting harder.
I really like my boss, he's extremely talented and brilliant in his field. He's taught me so much and I'm continuing to learn every day. I don't want to hinder/hurt the boss/employee relationship that we currently have.
I'm a big guy, and these "pats" don't necessarily hurt, it's more of an annoyance . We're a small company (around 50ish employees) and no real HR, more like a family atmosphere.
I would like to know the best way to handle approaching my boss? Do I say something? Should I block him, and throat-punch him back? (kidding) How can I tactfully handle this situation without hurting the job relationship and my great opportunity at this company? Do I say anything at all?
management colleagues ethics
asked 18 mins ago
MacItalyMacItaly
9782211
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I'm new to the company, Oct 2018, and I'm just now getting back into the technology field after being a classroom teacher for the last 10 years. I left education because of the lack of money, and I've landed a really good gig now - and I really enjoy it.
As I've been progressing in my assignments and accomplishments, my boss has become more and more enthusiastic in his approvals. He has started "patting" my back, which is more like hitting me. I must get slapped upside the shoulder 4-7 times a day now...and they seem to be getting harder.
I really like my boss, he's extremely talented and brilliant in his field. He's taught me so much and I'm continuing to learn every day. I don't want to hinder/hurt the boss/employee relationship that we currently have.
I'm a big guy, and these "pats" don't necessarily hurt, it's more of an annoyance . We're a small company (around 50ish employees) and no real HR, more like a family atmosphere.
I would like to know the best way to handle approaching my boss? Do I say something? Should I block him, and throat-punch him back? (kidding) How can I tactfully handle this situation without hurting the job relationship and my great opportunity at this company? Do I say anything at all?
management colleagues ethics
asked 18 mins ago
MacItalyMacItaly
9782211
LOL dude! question of the day!
– Fattie
16 mins ago
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I'm new to the company, Oct 2018, and I'm just now getting back into the technology field after being a classroom teacher for the last 10 years. I left education because of the lack of money, and I've landed a really good gig now - and I really enjoy it.
As I've been progressing in my assignments and accomplishments, my boss has become more and more enthusiastic in his approvals. He has started "patting" my back, which is more like hitting me. I must get slapped upside the shoulder 4-7 times a day now...and they seem to be getting harder.
I really like my boss, he's extremely talented and brilliant in his field. He's taught me so much and I'm continuing to learn every day. I don't want to hinder/hurt the boss/employee relationship that we currently have.
I'm a big guy, and these "pats" don't necessarily hurt, it's more of an annoyance . We're a small company (around 50ish employees) and no real HR, more like a family atmosphere.
I would like to know the best way to handle approaching my boss? Do I say something? Should I block him, and throat-punch him back? (kidding) How can I tactfully handle this situation without hurting the job relationship and my great opportunity at this company? Do I say anything at all?
management colleagues ethics
asked 18 mins ago
MacItalyMacItaly
9782211
I'm new to the company, Oct 2018, and I'm just now getting back into the technology field after being a classroom teacher for the last 10 years. I left education because of the lack of money, and I've landed a really good gig now - and I really enjoy it.
As I've been progressing in my assignments and accomplishments, my boss has become more and more enthusiastic in his approvals. He has started "patting" my back, which is more like hitting me. I must get slapped upside the shoulder 4-7 times a day now...and they seem to be getting harder.
I really like my boss, he's extremely talented and brilliant in his field. He's taught me so much and I'm continuing to learn every day. I don't want to hinder/hurt the boss/employee relationship that we currently have.
I'm a big guy, and these "pats" don't necessarily hurt, it's more of an annoyance . We're a small company (around 50ish employees) and no real HR, more like a family atmosphere.
I would like to know the best way to handle approaching my boss? Do I say something? Should I block him, and throat-punch him back? (kidding) How can I tactfully handle this situation without hurting the job relationship and my great opportunity at this company? Do I say anything at all?
management colleagues ethics
management colleagues ethics
asked 18 mins ago
MacItalyMacItaly
9782211
asked 18 mins ago
MacItalyMacItaly
9782211
asked 18 mins ago
MacItalyMacItaly
9782211
asked 18 mins ago
MacItalyMacItaly
9782211
asked 18 mins ago
MacItalyMacItaly
9782211
9782211
LOL dude! question of the day!
– Fattie
16 mins ago
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LOL dude! question of the day!
– Fattie
16 mins ago
LOL dude! question of the day!
– Fattie
16 mins ago
LOL dude! question of the day!
– Fattie
16 mins ago
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Great question!
To be totally honest - I would suck it up.
Take one for the team. You're a big guy, and it seems the situation is it's weird / a nuisance rather than a problem.
What I would do is probably something like feign an injury (like when a basketballer fakes a foul you know?) every time.
Come up with a "standard humorous response" - and do that every single time! (But let the boss be funnier.)
IMO - one man's vote - this is an unusual situation where you should just take one for the team, and sit on it! Even if it goes on for years!
answered 12 mins ago
FattieFattie
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You could just tell your boss that you have a weird skin rash and it hurts when he pats you on the back. Honestly thou, if you are uncomfortable saying that his pats make you feel uncomfortable maybe your relationship isn’t as close as you think it is.
answered 3 mins ago
DelacrankDelacrank
3514
I didn't say my relationship was close with him. I said I was learning a lot from him and don't want to hinder/hurt the boss/employee relationship.
– MacItaly
1 min ago
add a comment |
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Great question!
To be totally honest - I would suck it up.
Take one for the team. You're a big guy, and it seems the situation is it's weird / a nuisance rather than a problem.
What I would do is probably something like feign an injury (like when a basketballer fakes a foul you know?) every time.
Come up with a "standard humorous response" - and do that every single time! (But let the boss be funnier.)
IMO - one man's vote - this is an unusual situation where you should just take one for the team, and sit on it! Even if it goes on for years!
answered 12 mins ago
FattieFattie
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Great question!
To be totally honest - I would suck it up.
Take one for the team. You're a big guy, and it seems the situation is it's weird / a nuisance rather than a problem.
What I would do is probably something like feign an injury (like when a basketballer fakes a foul you know?) every time.
Come up with a "standard humorous response" - and do that every single time! (But let the boss be funnier.)
IMO - one man's vote - this is an unusual situation where you should just take one for the team, and sit on it! Even if it goes on for years!
answered 12 mins ago
FattieFattie
12.4k62139
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Great question!
To be totally honest - I would suck it up.
Take one for the team. You're a big guy, and it seems the situation is it's weird / a nuisance rather than a problem.
What I would do is probably something like feign an injury (like when a basketballer fakes a foul you know?) every time.
Come up with a "standard humorous response" - and do that every single time! (But let the boss be funnier.)
IMO - one man's vote - this is an unusual situation where you should just take one for the team, and sit on it! Even if it goes on for years!
answered 12 mins ago
FattieFattie
12.4k62139
Great question!
To be totally honest - I would suck it up.
Take one for the team. You're a big guy, and it seems the situation is it's weird / a nuisance rather than a problem.
What I would do is probably something like feign an injury (like when a basketballer fakes a foul you know?) every time.
Come up with a "standard humorous response" - and do that every single time! (But let the boss be funnier.)
IMO - one man's vote - this is an unusual situation where you should just take one for the team, and sit on it! Even if it goes on for years!
answered 12 mins ago
FattieFattie
12.4k62139
answered 12 mins ago
FattieFattie
12.4k62139
answered 12 mins ago
FattieFattie
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answered 12 mins ago
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You could just tell your boss that you have a weird skin rash and it hurts when he pats you on the back. Honestly thou, if you are uncomfortable saying that his pats make you feel uncomfortable maybe your relationship isn’t as close as you think it is.
answered 3 mins ago
DelacrankDelacrank
3514
I didn't say my relationship was close with him. I said I was learning a lot from him and don't want to hinder/hurt the boss/employee relationship.
– MacItaly
1 min ago
add a comment |
You could just tell your boss that you have a weird skin rash and it hurts when he pats you on the back. Honestly thou, if you are uncomfortable saying that his pats make you feel uncomfortable maybe your relationship isn’t as close as you think it is.
answered 3 mins ago
DelacrankDelacrank
3514
I didn't say my relationship was close with him. I said I was learning a lot from him and don't want to hinder/hurt the boss/employee relationship.
– MacItaly
1 min ago
add a comment |
You could just tell your boss that you have a weird skin rash and it hurts when he pats you on the back. Honestly thou, if you are uncomfortable saying that his pats make you feel uncomfortable maybe your relationship isn’t as close as you think it is.
answered 3 mins ago
DelacrankDelacrank
3514
You could just tell your boss that you have a weird skin rash and it hurts when he pats you on the back. Honestly thou, if you are uncomfortable saying that his pats make you feel uncomfortable maybe your relationship isn’t as close as you think it is.
answered 3 mins ago
DelacrankDelacrank
3514
answered 3 mins ago
DelacrankDelacrank
3514
answered 3 mins ago
DelacrankDelacrank
3514
answered 3 mins ago
DelacrankDelacrank
3514
3514
I didn't say my relationship was close with him. I said I was learning a lot from him and don't want to hinder/hurt the boss/employee relationship.
– MacItaly
1 min ago
add a comment |
I didn't say my relationship was close with him. I said I was learning a lot from him and don't want to hinder/hurt the boss/employee relationship.
– MacItaly
1 min ago
I didn't say my relationship was close with him. I said I was learning a lot from him and don't want to hinder/hurt the boss/employee relationship.
– MacItaly
1 min ago
I didn't say my relationship was close with him. I said I was learning a lot from him and don't want to hinder/hurt the boss/employee relationship.
– MacItaly
1 min ago
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LOL dude! question of the day!
– Fattie
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